Tag: dvet

Me Married? (cheerful)

Learning, Poetic, This Person
it's where two sweet hearts
meeting in a quiet meadow
to sing together

(haiku about an ideal marriage of mine)

When I was a high schooler I wanted to get married at 25. At 35 broken-hearted decided to be single forever; at 45 re-opened myself to any possibility–

While in my culture talking about romance or wishing to get married at my age is considered a shame, I proceed. I’m a human being— if they do, why not me? I’m so comfortable to say this even thinking it out loud in front of family and friends; and they were the one sometimes would feel less comfortable and tell me to be calm.

I’m calm and not in a hurry chasing anyone. I”m just so relaxed. I’m accepting the fact that wanting something will not affect my state of being thankful-to-be-me if what’s wanted doesn’t happen. At this point my thought is if I’m getting married, I’m happy getting married. If I’m not, I am happy not getting married.

Last Monday I watched a podcast in which Raline Shah was interviewed by Dave Hendrik & Iwet Ramadhan (my favourite duo the DVET) in YouTube. She highlighted what I’ve thought about for so long in life (maybe also what’s been thought about by many female single around me). 

And these are some loved statements of hers shareable to you all:

“I want us to still get married but I want to have faith that even if I have this job also be with you. So sometimes this independence creates insecurity in the man I date…”

It was about her stance on her own dream and the man she dated who wanted her to be just a wife instead of a woman with career.

“I would love to compromise my life. I would love to compromise my dreams because getting married is also another dream but I just don’t feel that in your natural state, does that person love you? …. They don’t really like you, they’re just in love with you.”

It was when she was asked if she would compromise her dream for marriage. This is truly a beautiful statement.

“Just be yourself para jomblo. Do what you like, …. And see who likes you for that version of you.”

Yes, being one’s self is a must. Oscar Wilde said “Be yourself; everyone else is already taken“.

I hope all single people especially ladies in my culture (or other culture resembling mine) decide to get married or not because of their own choice, not because of no choice. It sounds utopic but it is what it is.

Cheerio, dear me!

Note: jomblo: single (not married) person

Iwet Ramadhan, Raline Shah, Dave Hendrik

Henry Manampiring

Learning

Good to listen but his books depict more about his thought and way of life–

there is no human being can be so adorable except one who accepts one’s self – Henry Manampiring is one of them

I read two books of his and on the way to more, heard a lot of opinions about him then listened to this podcast 👍🏽

Last 10 Minutes (entertainment)

Learning

Bahasa Indonesia only

Watching the last 10 minutes of this episode, I successfully brighten my day.

Already more than 10 times!

😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

thank you Dave and Iwet

Ouch!

Learning

It's an ouch
When you're overtaken
By a friend
With no sign.

today i did active listening and facial expression observing — i could not stop enjoying how the chat was going and how these two were competing with each other

hilarious!

😂

such competing stuff is not applicable to me and my friends — friendship characteristic varies based on the human beings in it

beautiful❣️

Favourite Episode

Learning, Poetic

I love, Beloved,
When laughter's mixture of joy
And hidden strike back.

i love this episode especially when the challenge to eat avocado seed happened

enjoy 🤣

Nano-Nano Feel

Learning

Nano-nano feel
A mix of salt and orange
In a candy cut.

Nano-Nano is a candy that tastes combination of salty, sweet and sour.: full of different emotions.

i watched early part before flight to Jogja, watching the full this evening

oh my God! full of laughter then another shocking feel 🥲😁😍

Joy Is Contagious

Learning, Those People
Joy is contagious
Spreading through fungi,
Growing under the ground,
Connecting stations of interest on earth,
Glowing through memories, hopes and dreams.

if i happened to be in Jogja today, i would have loved to be there too to meet with these announcers whom i listen almost every morning to start my day; their joyful moment was contagious though so even not joining, i could feel the joy!

i wish you health and joy everyday so you can share good things longer and more

💗

HAHAHA!!! (only in Bahasa Indonesia)

Learning, Those People

Today’s dvetsiaranpagi episode is so far the most heavily belly-shaking (to me) esp. on the scout experience & the proverb “bagai pungguk merindukan bulan” parts. Downloaded, rewatched at lunch break and will be rewatched for my rest–

😂

the vulnerable & the critical