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A Choice (ranting)

Learning, Poetic
Which glass, Beloved?
The one that brings me to you
Enjoying the home—

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In a call with a best friend just now I complained about the madness Twitter has brought to me. She didn’t say sweet words because she knew I didn’t need them. She preached me instead. 🙃

BF: Hey! You quit Twitter earlier with a good reason. You are back for a good reason. I know you support freedom of speech but for dumbass Twitter is to express hatred and stupidity— to throw up and to shit. Twitter is where the smart brave excel because of their endurance, the smart timid like us should only observe or have fun to survive and the stupid idiot wander around like hungry hyenas collaborating behind the screen destroying humanity. If you can’t take it, quit for the second time. Blah blah blah

BF: Or, go back to Facebook where some friends scrutinise whatever we do and give us sugar-coated words while laughing behind us or even stabbing in the back. Or, be busier in Instagram where people show their lavish life that might be fake; and where people especially you happily stalked your crush ha ha ha. Blah blah blah….

I have to agree with her though. WordPress is a home, serene and comfortable to stay warm and sane. Twitter is a market, busy and crowded but is worth visiting regularly. Instagram is a photo studio that should be visited only once in a while.

Me: Ya, ya…. Blog sites are still a home for me. I need Twitter to read some news, it’s like going shopping.

BF: Let’s go shopping again. We don’t need to look smart to go shopping. Just a bit of curiosity and bargaining position. I saw Fau follows you.

Me: Ya. I found her in one G20 tweet. Escaping from Facebook. She really suits Twitter the most.

Time for lunch!

Twitter
WordPress

Selfie

Bob, Learning, This Person

Reading many blogs about selfie, I got caught by a wish to have more self-portrait photographs. Fun, Fun, Fun!

Historically, I love to be taken picture of and to take pictures.  Doing selfie? I have made some even 6 years ago when I needed a pic for office ID badge. Pity I can’t retrieve the pic in my old laptop. Even I made some selfie using self-timer function in my old Nikon earlier than the ID badge pic – developing the selfie was another fun time by then. Anyway, looking beautiful, sweet and casual in front of our own lens is sometimes amazing. Why not appreciating our own beauty rather than waiting for others to acknowledge it – knowing that it would happen once in a blue moon…. 🙂

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This is one of my selfie, with dearest Bob.

But…. I just read one striking source about selfie: A study done in 2013 study of Facebook users found that posting photos of oneself correlates with lower levels of social support from and intimacy with Facebook friends (except for those marked as Close Friends). The lead author of the study suggests that “those who frequently post photographs on Facebook risk damaging real-life relationships.”

Posting intentionally unattractive selfies has also become common in the early 2010s—in part for their humor value, but in some cases also to explore issues of body image or as a reaction against the perceived narcissism or over-sexualization of typical selfies. (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Selfie)

Alamaaaak! Am I some part of the noted symptoms? Not often but more than once I posted my selfie to Facebook and Instagram — not consciously showing my exceeding narcissism or over-sexualization, but honestly I had nobody to ask to take my picture when I was at home just with Bob my dear cat son and when I was somewhere in another part of the globe where not only language but also confidence had become my communication barrier. Anyway, I took selfie and posted them into public…. Hey, not public! Limited friends! And, I only have 60 friends in Facebook. Is that still counted? Look like this person starts to be guilty and afraid of getting blamed on by the result of above research.   🙂

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My selfie with Masako & her husband

Hmm…. Who cares about the research? I shouldn’t bother myself too much just because a summary of research was included in a Wikipedia page and this page is not scientifically valid as anyone can update any topic. And, I didn’t even fully read the research report.

So, selfie is still one possibility in my life. I’ll probably take picture using my dear iDevices or baby Nikon somewhere someday with or without somebody with me (non-physical being not expected, please).

Anyway, this is only part of my end-of-day sharing. Many to unload from my brain just to un-stuff unnecessary rubbish inside. Hmmm…. I think selfie can be just part of un-stuffing my humane burden. Ok, latter statement of mine is stronger than any statement from that research result…. 🙂

Oh, dear Selfie…..

If you are interested in reading the result of research, please click:  http://epapers.bham.ac.uk/1723/1/2013%2D03_D_Houghton.pdf

Bayan Lepas – November 3, 2014 – 11:41pm